“The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof.”—Barbara Kingsolver (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
1. We can’t tell the future; we don’t know what lies ahead. All we can ever do is try to figure out a plan.
2. Your friends and your parents don’t know the future either. Your life is YOURS to live – don’t let them plan your life for you.
3. Enjoy what’s happening now; hang out, and do things…
“Some people live in cages with bars built from their own fears and doubts. Some people live in cages with bars built from other people’s fears and doubts; their parents, their friends, their brothers and sisters, their families. Some people live in cages with bars built from the choices others made for them, the circumstances other people imposed upon them. And some people break free.”—C. JoyBell C (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Wow. This is everything I feel about you, p.i.c. You make me more myself, but still I am entwined in you.
“I’m not totally mad at you. I’m just sad. You’re all locked up in that little world of yours, and when I try knocking on the door, you just sort of look up for a second and go right back inside.”—Haruki Murakami (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
I have been sick for a week straight. It started off with a really bad headache/sinus headache, achy body, loss of appetite, some congestion, fever and sorta sore throat when swallowing and lasted that way for three days. Started getting better on the third, boom got two huge cold sores, then sore throat got worse, light cough developed, and runny nose started, headaches still, along with loss of appetite. Woke up at 3 am this morning because my throat hurt bad and the bottom of my jaw along both sides of my jaw lines hurt so bad! I woke up chocking and coughing! And now my stomach hurts and I feel nauseous, I’m officially freaked out! I need to go to the doctor!
“The most successful people recognize that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation.”—Neil DeGrasse Tyson (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
1. Know what you want to get out of life … as you won’t reach your goals if you don’t where you’re going.
2. Make a list of all things that you’re grateful for in life … as it will help to change your attitude, your feelings and your mood.
3. Count to 10 before reacting to someone or to…